Upon the discovery of a spouse’s porn/sex addiction, many women have asked if they are to blame for their husband’s pornography/sex addiction. A range of emotions surface and trying to process them all can be difficult. Women want to know how they can keep from shutting down completely and move towards a healthier place. Stephanie and Cynthia share what helped them to stay afloat and not succumb to depression in the midst of an uncertain and emotional time in their lives.

Katie and Christina talk about the dynamics of their spouse’s addiction and how it shaped their relationship. Both women talk about the rollercoaster of emotions that came with the ebbs and flows of addiction and how they dealt with the moments of disconnect when their spouses were in full blown addiction mode. The ladies share their intentional efforts that moved them from hopelessness to restoring peace in their home.

One of the most frequently asked questions we receive at XXXchurch from wives is “Should I be my husband’s accountability partner?” We ask that question to Cynthia and Katie in this session and both of them share that out of a desire to keep their husbands from going further down the road of addiction they became lost in the details which were not helpful to them or their husbands.

When dealing with a betrayal of this nature– something so personal and so intimate—forgiveness is not easy for even the godliest of women. In this session, Michelle and Jenna talk about forgiveness being a daily action that is motivated by an intentional response of the heart and how to move from anger, hurt, disbelief to forgiveness. Does a wife have to forgive her husband if he is unrepentant? Is forgiveness only for the offender?

Probably one of the most important and yet difficult things for a woman to do once she’s discovered sexual betrayal in her marriage is to take care of herself.  Often women are left feeling completely disheveled because the one person that vowed to love, cherish and build a life with them has forsaken that vow in a very serious way.  These women share that through many failed attempts they finally learned they had choices and that included finding themselves valuable.

In this session, Connie and Stephanie talk about the difference between paranoia and discernment. They offer helpful insight on maintaining sanity when thoughts often turn into fear of potential relapse. It is not uncommon for the spouse of an addict to bring the history of their past into an unknown future. Stephanie and Connie talk about how women in these situations will need reassurances. They also discuss the destructive nature of black and white thinking. Recovery is a process–just like a journey.

Should you tell your kids about your husband’s addiction? This informative session helps you to shape a conversation with your kids that will be honest and leave them knowing that regardless of the challenge your marriage faces you are committed to them. Filled with wisdom and insight from three moms who have all been transparent with their children about the struggles in their marriages and their husbands’ lives. Learn age appropriate discussions and what those look like. Do you talk to the kids together as a couple or separately by gender?

What does moving on look like? Can a marriage be restored after separation? Does life really go on and can one find peace after divorce? All of these questions are answered from the perspectives of women who have been in each scenario. An in-depth session reveals when it may be necessary to separate from an unrepentant spouse. This is one of the hardest sessions in this series because no one wants to end up in this place but the reality is, some women will have to make this crucial decision, or like Michelle– their husbands will make it for them.